In the first months, many babies hang on their chest for hours (especially in the evening). There is a lot of information on this topic. But in each case, it is necessary to individually understand the causes of the problem.
NORMAL CHILD BEHAVIOR.
If your child is healthy, gaining weight within the normal range,has regular urination and stool, then the behavior described below is usually the norm for the development of the baby. In any case, if something is bothering you, it is best to contact a lactation consultant and a pediatrician.
The baby is often applied in the evenings .
Most babies become more cranky in the evening and require breasts more often. Some may literally. Problematic evening hours are a fairly common occurrence. The baby needs to be given more attention, vilified on the handles or in a sling. Let him be at the breast as much as he wants.
Often evening whims are a reason to do it.
The child constantly asks for a breast if he is sick or thirsty.
During illness, the child feels calmer and can more easily endure pain during breastfeeding. Also, the baby may ask for breasts more often when it is very hot.
The child hangs on the chest during difficult periods of development . When the baby: for example, roll over or crawl - attachment to the breast can become quite frequent. Frequent applications can also be observed during periods and.
ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR.
Do not wait in case of restless behavior of the baby. Better to be safe.Please monitor your baby's weight gain at home, call a lactation consultant or call a pediatrician at home. The behavior of the baby described below may indicate real problems with the sufficiency of breast milk, problems with the attachment and sucking of the child himself, or other problems.
A baby who cries, even if you just fed him, is constantly looking for a breast .
This behavior is considered abnormal if it happens very often. A few "whimsical" hours a day is normal. But if the baby constantly hangs on the chest day and night, this is an indicator of a problem. Yes, all mothers and babies are individual: but it is better to play it safe and rule out malnutrition.
Baby sleeps too much or too little .
If the baby is constantly awake or, on the contrary, sleeps all the time, this may mean that he does not have enough milk or something else is happening to him. If your newborn sleeps at night without waking up for more than five hours in a row, this is not a reason to rejoice, but a reason to be wary. In the first weeks of life, a baby's sleep is evenly distributed over 24 hours, and the longest sleep is usually no more than 4-5 hours. Conversely, if the baby sleeps only in the first weeks, this may be a symptom of hunger.
How much should a child sleep - see. Significant deviations from the norm should alert you.
Baby sucks for too long at every feed .
Usually the child eats approximately from 5 to 45 minutes. In the same child, the duration of one feeding may differ each time. But, if your baby is suckling for too long at each feed, then he most likely has problems sucking milk effectively. Now is the time to seek help from a lactation consultant.
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The child asks for the breast too often. This is perhaps the most common complaint of new mothers! “Maybe he doesn’t eat? Does he play? Does he use his breasts as a pacifier? How to understand if this is normal or not?
First, let's check the age of the baby. Suppose we are talking about a baby of the first 6-8 weeks of life. Usually, feeding at this age happens like this: the baby is applied to the breast, actively sucks for several minutes, then the throats become less frequent, the sucking slows down, the baby closes his eyes, falls asleep, but continues to suck, as a rule, already superficially.
Finally, he falls asleep with the breast in his mouth, then he can release it, sleeps no more than 10-15 minutes (especially if he is put off) and ... again begins to look for the breast with characteristic movements. Such a cycle can last for an hour or two or longer. Then the child can fall asleep deeply for an hour or two. This is called "crowded" or "serial" feedings. They are typical for newborns. Often, babies arrange such "nurturing marathons" in the evenings, which gives mothers cause for concern. It seems to them that all the milk has been eaten in a day and now the baby is hungry.
The baby learns to suckle in the first weeks, and the one who learns must train a lot.
The baby grows rapidly in the first weeks, he needs a lot of energy and a lot of milk.
In the first weeks, the child often swallows air, often burps, and after that again needs milk.
In the first weeks, the baby satisfies all the basic needs by sucking the breast: hunger, thirst, the need for security and closeness, the need to empty the intestines and bladder.
And yet, according to Dr. Winnicott, the leading child psychiatrist, “there are needs of a very subtle nature that can only be satisfied through human contact. Perhaps the child needs to get into the rhythm of the mother's breathing, or even hear or feel how the adult's heart beats. Or maybe the baby needs the smells of mother and father, or sounds that mean that there is someone alive nearby, or colors, movement. The child should not be left to himself when he is still too undeveloped and unable to answer for own life».
All this encourages the baby in the first 6-8 weeks of life to seek contact with the mother and apply to the breast 10 to 20 times a day.
In some cases, children may "hang" on the chest for a long time due to difficulties with an effective grip. It can be difficult for a baby to suckle enough milk if he is not attached to the breast correctly or if something prevents him from sucking normally. Such children swallow little, rarely release their breasts on their own and behave very restlessly.
Important: pay attention to how the baby gains weight and urinates. If the child’s weekly weight gain is at least 125 g, and there are at least 12 wet diapers per day, then everything is in order with breastfeeding, the baby is full.
And then the frequency of attachments decreases, the child learns to saturate faster. But periodically, during growth spurts or in a state of stress, illness, the baby may again begin to ask for breasts very often and “not let go” of his mother from himself. As a rule, this behavior ends as soon as the mother's milk production increases, the stress is compensated, or the baby recovers.
It is interesting that the second wave of maternal complaints about frequent feeding occurs about a year and a half after the birth of the baby - just when the mothers exhale ... And the grown runner suddenly begins to demand a breast every 15 minutes until he sleeps. And sometimes every hour, even when sleeping. “Is it because he doesn’t eat much regular food? He got spoiled! He's manipulating me..."
A "big" baby may experience ailments against the background of teething. He can just get sick: the chances of catching an infection become wider. These are the most obvious causes of “hanging” on the chest.
The “big” baby has more stressful situations in life. These can be family events: a move, a visit, the birth of a younger child, a visit to a kindergarten or a development studio. And there may be personal events: learning new skills, disturbing dreams, the first fear of darkness, loneliness and confined space. The development of the ability to predict and imagine turns into a child's fear of losing his mother. What if she leaves and doesn't come back? So, it is necessary to keep it in the old proven way. And now the child “does not let go” of his mother, throws tantrums and greedily clings to his chest.
The "big" baby in life has a place for boredom. Yes Yes. At the age of 9 months it was interesting to explore the bowels of the apartment and knock the lid on the pan. At one and a half or two years, if nothing has attracted the attention of the child, he tries to dispel boredom again in the old proven way - by sucking. Especially if the mother is in sight and sits motionless.
In a situation where frequent feedings of a grown-up baby begin to exhaust the mother, it is important to be able to separate the moments of a real need for a breast from everything else.
It is important to learn new ways of communicating with the child, to switch his attention when he asks for a breast for entertainment. Walks, communication in a small circle of mothers with babies of a close age, new situations and circumstances that are interesting and not scary for the baby will distract him from attachment.
It's time to remember about close relatives. The child is quite ready to communicate with them without your presence - and without your breast. Understandably, acute stress and illness are good reasons for frequent feedings, even between the ages of one and three. But children recover faster, and after a period of “hanging” on the chest, there always comes a period when the baby forgets about it.
Thus, breast milk is not just food. By breastfeeding, the child solves many age-related problems. Therefore, in the first year of life, it is important to immediately satisfy the need for mother's milk, and after a year - to observe the baby and act according to the situation.
The behavior of the baby often causes inconvenience to the mother: the child requires constant attention, the mother is tired and nervous. And with natural feeding, a situation often arises when the baby hangs on the chest for hours day and night, not letting go of mom, not letting her rest. Why is this happening and what to do in this situation?
Periods when the baby hangs on the chest occur in two-three-month-olds, and in nine-month-old children, and even in children older than a year. The reasons for this behavior are different and depend on age.
A newborn baby, up to 1 month old, needs frequent and continuous breastfeeding. Usually at this time, children are constantly at the breast, but mothers regard this as the natural behavior of a child getting used to a new stage of development. The child fully satisfies the sucking reflex. Mothers do not yet feel tired, they themselves do not yet seek to leave the child, do not complain that he is constantly hanging on the chest.
Time passes, and the rhythm of feeding is gradually getting better, mother and baby adjust to each other, mother learns to have time to do her business in between feedings. And suddenly - like a bolt from the blue - at the age of about 3 months, the child begins to demand breasts more often, does not let go of her after he has eaten, in case of mother's refusal, he is naughty, screams. Mom in a panic: what to do?
“Experienced” grandmothers admonish: “He is the character, don’t spoil him, don’t give him breasts.” Nervous dads echo grandmothers: “Is he in charge here? Let him lie in bed, there is nothing to indulge his whims. "Girlfriends advise:" Yes, give him a pacifier, he will scream and calm down, it happened to me too.
Having respectfully listened to these opinions, confident mothers still follow their own idea of \u200b\u200braising a baby. And here the main thing is to understand why the baby does not let go of the breast? The fact is that at the age of 3 months the first lactation crisis occurs. For many women, it goes unnoticed. And for some, the amount of milk is slightly reduced. The child grows intensively during this period, he needs more and more milk every day. And his chest is getting smaller. Feeling this, the child instinctively tries to solve the problem in the only way available to him - more frequent breastfeeding. The child in this case is wiser than the mother, he does not listen to anyone, he does what nature taught him in the process of evolution: if you suckle the breast - there will be food - you will live.
The best way out for a mother is to listen to the child, to give him what he asks for. A calm, confident mother knows that the period of “hanging” on her chest is a temporary phenomenon, and if you don’t get nervous and don’t blame yourself and the baby for what is happening, then this period will quickly and safely end, and you will return to the usual feeding rhythm.
If you try to “educate” a three-month-old child, show him who is in charge here, exhort him with meaningless notations like “well, you just ate”, then you can fall into a vicious circle:
The child asks for breasts - the mother does not give - the child is nervous and asks for breasts to calm down - the mother does not give, thinking that he is naughty - the child screams and cries in a panic, asks for breasts - the mother, unable to stand it, gives up and gives the breast - the child, having finally received breast, sucks it for a long time and does not let go - the mother tears out the breast - the child is nervous again, afraid that they will not give him the breast again - the mother is annoyed with the child, scolds him, does not give the breast, punishing him - the child does not understand what is happening, wants only one thing, to suck on the breast and that everything be as before - the mother wants only one thing: to rest and sleep - everyone is crying.
Often the way to break this vicious circle is to switch to artificial feeding, it is at 3 months that many mothers stop breastfeeding: the baby begins to hang on the chest, the mother thinks that he is not full, and gives him a mixture. All.
A more correct way out of the vicious circle is simple: you need to obey the desire of the child, pushing your pedagogical aspirations to a later period. Just let the baby hang on the chest for as long as he needs. Are you not getting enough sleep? Organize. Don't have time to do household chores? Buy a sling, adapt to it, learn how to do household chores without leaving your child. Tired? Relax with your child. Everything has a solution, you just need to want to keep breastfeeding! Remember, this is not permanent, periods of hanging on the chest usually pass quickly.
Thus, under the age of 1 year, periods of hanging on the chest are associated with lactation crises. The older the child, the shorter these periods are, and they may already be associated with some external problems not related to the amount of milk: for example, teething causes some discomfort in the child's mouth, and he tries to smooth it out with frequent sucking. Colds, ailments of the child can also provoke long hanging on the chest. But this makes it easier for the baby, you can relieve his pain by simply giving him a breast at an inopportune time when he asks.
If the child is older than a year, does not get sick and does not actively cut teeth, but at the same time he begins to constantly demand breasts (eating ordinary food in normal quantities) - this may be due to the onset of weaning. Often, mothers of one-year-old children begin to think that it is time to part with their breasts. They talk about it a lot, hint to the child that he is “already big”, try to limit sucking. The child expresses his disagreement, unwillingness to part with the breast precisely by frequent attachments to it. Seeing the mother, the child is distracted from the very interesting toy and runs up to cling to the chest, and then runs away to play again. So the child is looking for confirmation that the breast that is valuable to him belongs to him. The child needs this feeling to gain confidence, control over the world, trust in the environment. If you feel that the child is older than a year, that he is not yet ready to part with her. Worth continuing if possible breast-feeding, wait for the end of this period and a more favorable situation for . It is already possible to negotiate with children older than a year, you can calm and encourage them with the help of breastfeeding, you can sometimes briefly refuse to breastfeed, demonstrating frustration and resentment if the child shows undesirable behavior. However, it is impossible to manipulate attachments, this is dishonest in relation to the child - after all, the breast for him is still associated with unconditional maternal love. “If you don’t eat porridge, you won’t get titya” - this phrase is understood by the child as follows: “if you don’t eat porridge, then I will stop loving you” - agree, you didn’t mean that, did you?
So, if the child hangs on the chest - be aware of the reasons and tune in to calmly overcome this period, let the child stay with you as long as he needs. Thus, you will strengthen mutual trust and will be able to quickly and painlessly survive this period.
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Elena, hello! Probably, I have the same lactation crisis, my daughter is almost three months old, and for the third night we suck all the time, since joint sleep helps out (breaks for an hour, a maximum of one and a half). But, for some reason, during the day she doesn’t take her breast very often, especially when I sit down to feed, scream, turn around, I have to observe an interval of about 1.5-2 hours, then you can avoid screaming, and feed only lying down. The breasts are no longer as full as before, and it is rarely possible to express with a breast pump ... And in this situation, I have such a question, how many days this can continue and after what time, if feeding continues to improve, supplement the baby. piss settled back to normal, more than 12 per day. Can Apilak start drinking?
I agree with you about crises. Our last one was when the baby was 1.5. Constant "night hanging" led to cracks, very painful. Although I am an experienced mother. Decided it was time to let go. I see only +. Appetite has appeared, does not wake up at night, I can finally take care of my health. The baby perfectly drinks milk from a bottle before going to bed. I see no reason to delay breastfeeding. The previous child was weaned in a year, there were no problems at all.
Good afternoon We have a problem with sleep and feeding. The child is 5 months old, has been sleeping with us since birth, wakes up every hour, demands a breast, seems to overeat, because then he whimpers, pulls his legs, does not take his breast. And so all night, the chest whimpers, sleeps a little and again demands breasts. And stubbornly "moves out" on the nipple. My chest and nipple hurt, and I can't get enough sleep. If I don’t give breasts, I yell. What to do?
Hello! Such situation. My son is 21 days old. Upon arrival from the maternity hospital, feeding was arranged every 2-3 hours. I slept great between feedings. But here already the second day hangs on a breast constantly. Does not let go at all, sleeps and sucks. It is worth leaving - he wakes up in five minutes and cries. What is this? lactation crisis? On some resources they write that the first happens in 3-6 weeks
Elena, hello! Back to you for help. I can't get through the "reply" button, so I'm writing a new post. The baby was very noisy. He suffers from colic, and maybe something else is a plus, but he screams terribly. Already yelled a hernia. Calms down only on the chest, motion sickness rarely helps. And I feed every two hours, and even "soothing" times. Apparently, it turns out a lot, he burps, gets upset, cries again, gasps for air, suffers from his stomach, yells, again on his chest and burps again. In general, we go in circles.
I want to help him, but I don't know how. Maybe something to change in their behavior?
No, the grip is correct. Well, not classic, but very good. I also thought about the capture and invited a consultant
Good evening! I have the same problem, my son is 9 months old. Misha sleeps with us in bed, because we are on GW. Somewhere from the age of 7 months, Misha began to sleep poorly at night - he wakes up every hour to eat. The nipple at such moments does not help, but only irritates him, and he begins to cry even more. So only the chest saves. But every hour, or even more often, it is very difficult.
Diet before bed:
- At 7-7.5 months at 18:00-19:00 cottage cheese with fruits 100-130 gr., Then only breasts at night.
- By 8.5 months, we decided that Misha remained hungry at night and decided to feed him porridge (on the advice of a pediatrician) 1 hour before bedtime. But even after 5 days the situation has not changed!
Also, from 7.5 months, the sleep pattern went astray: earlier, night sleep began from 20:30-21:00 and until 06:00-06:30. Now we put him at 20:00-21:00 and after 40 minutes he wakes up and does not fall asleep until 23:30-00:00
Daytime sleep: 1.5-2 hours in the morning (11:00-13:00); 40 min.-1.5 hours in the afternoon (15:00-16:30); 40 min. in the evening (not always) (20:30-21:30)
The teeth came out at 6-7 months (6 pieces), until new ones are expected (as the pediatrician said).
Tell me what you can do, or wait until he stops waking up so often?
Elena, hello! Help me please. Daughters 1.5 months. Approximately 3 weeks ago, she began to hang on her chest. During the day he practically does not sleep, a maximum of an hour and then rarely. Sucks breast for 1.5-2 hours. Dozing only with her in his mouth, sucking. You pick up your chest, you start crying heart-rendingly. No one can calm down often, 10-12 times for sure. I p
Elena, hello. We have such a problem. The child is 10 days old, from the first day there were problems with feeding. The nipples are flat, difficult for my daughter to grasp. I tried to breastfeed with a pad, then after a consultant on guards, I began to give breasts without a pad. But it became very painful to feed, straight to tears. And the daughter has been constantly asking for breasts for 2 days, she refuses to take a breast pad, gets angry, cries all the time. You have to feed the mixture. What to do? I'm afraid that he will completely refuse the breast. I'm desperate.
Elena, thanks for your reply. It seems to me that the expressed milk is not enough. At a time, somewhere around 30-40 ml is obtained in total. Pain during feeding, she began to smear Purelan, you really need to endure.
About getting angry, I meant that the first time you can’t grab the chest, because. the nipples are flat, and after several unsuccessful attempts, she starts to cry a lot, turn away, and then I can’t attach her at all.
Good evening, please tell me, the child is 2 years old, she began to constantly hang on her chest at night, what this may be connected with, I don’t plan to wean yet, but the lack of sleep began to strain!
Hello! Baby 1.5 months The problem is that the child often hangs on the chest and uses the breast not for food, but for comfort. When milk arrives in the process of sucking, the breast lets go, becomes angry, as if not hungry at all. At night, sleepy sucks breasts well, I hear how he swallows. During the day, when he eats, he behaves strangely near the chest, arches, cries, is nervous, especially when milk arrives.
I tried to give expressed milk from a bottle - she drinks very little 50 grams no more.
I have enough milk, I have a lot of flushes.
What to do, why the child can behave like this?
From such behavior, lactation may decrease and you will have to transfer to IV later. What would not be desirable.
Please advise what to do, how to establish GV ???
Hello! Baby three months and a week and a half. For the last four days, I have seen a change in behavior. If earlier we tried to withstand two hours between feedings and three times at night (we have a joint dream from birth), now she eats every hour, even if you check the clock and sleep between feedings. She walks a little, I can’t stand the street, she falls asleep under her chest, sleeps for forty minutes, provided that I don’t leave, the chest wakes up again, she cries straight if I hesitate. I didn’t notice that there was less milk, is it really a lactation crisis? Or is it something else?
Good night my baby is 1.5 months old. He also hangs on his chest every half hour after spitting up and again asking for breasts, such a cycle, but at night every two hours, but the fact is that we were told that he has an advantage, I don’t know what to do, I wanted to teach him to endure at least an hour, he doesn’t want to cry ! And still suffer from colic ..
Hello, Elena!) Such a situation ... My baby is almost 11 months old. It worries me that even in daytime dreams, if they are not on the street, but at home, I have to lie next to him, he sleeps either with a tit in his mouth, and even if he falls off, then after 30-40 minutes he will start looking for her ... To the child had a full sleep at 1.5 hours, I have to lie next to me ... And what about housework? Yes, I would have had time to redo everything in this time! But for all 11 months I’ve been afraid to move away from him, I’m afraid that he will wake up ... But a child who hasn’t slept enough is whims. At night, duck, I don’t understand anything, how much he sucks there ... Everything is in some kind of half-asleep ... But at that age he should generally sleep at night without waking up, but I have the feeling that he sucks half the night. Give, please, advice! Maybe I'm to blame? Wasn't it necessary to shove the baby to the child with every vomit before?
Oh, here is a great question from Olga. Have us now in five months the same. Only my son wakes up five minutes after I leave. I always thought that it was his need to be with his mother and did not see the problem. I once mentioned this in a conversation with a friend, a mother of three children. She started talking about rickets. What, coupled with a rubbed nape (this was with my son) bad dream testifies to its existence. I myself read a lot about the fact that sweaty legs and a bald head on the back of the head are not a sign of rickets. We have been giving our son one drop of aquadetrim for a long time, but not every day. So the pediatrician recommended, at first she didn’t even want to prescribe. So a friend is talking about 9 (!) Drops.
I understand that the question is medical, and I will find out this with the doctor, I’m just interested in your opinion, Elena
Hello. And I have a similar problem. The child is already 13.5 months old. During the day, he sleeps only if I'm lying next to him, and at night too, but at the same time he constantly hangs on his chest. I can’t even go to drink water, I immediately wake up, start crying, asking for breasts. I used to think that this is due to the fact that he does not eat up during the day, since he eats almost nothing, except for 100 grams of cottage cheese for breakfast, and 50-150 grams of vegetable meat for lunch, and 100 ml of kefir as an afternoon snack, the rest of the time - breast milk. Dinner was moved to the evening - before swimming, so that he would go to bed full - it was useless, nothing had changed. Everything is also restless sleeping and hanging on his chest. What could it be and what to do?
Good afternoon I ask you for help. My son is three months old, in the maternity hospital they were supplemented with formula when there was no milk yet, it took us a day. Then the son sucked his breast, there was enough milk. Up to a month I slept and ate in 2-3 hours. All was good. But then the son began to hang on his chest. At first there were colic and the son fell asleep only on the balcony in the cool air. Now it's summer, we go out into the street and after 5 minutes a tantrum begins, she doesn't sleep, she needs breasts. So we sit on a bench in the yard with a chest. Sleeps 2-3 hours at night, wakes up to eat, sleep together. And during the day, some kind of nightmare, constantly on my chest, sleeps for 15 minutes, I get up, he wakes up. It doesn't look like a crisis, there is milk. She doesn't take a pacifier either, even on the street. How to be? I tried to give a mixture of nan, 60 ml, I ate everything and ate my breast for another hour and did not fall asleep ...
Hello! Tell me, please, the child is 3 weeks old, constantly hangs on her chest during the day. every 3 hours, and during the day again constantly on the chest. What uh
is it a lack of milk? I myself constantly drink tea with milk, drink lactaphytol, sleep with a child, but the milk, it seems to me, does not increase in volume. I pumped both breasts, it comes out 20-30 ml. .I'm desperate, advise what to do.
Good afternoon My daughter is 1.2 years old. Complementary foods started late, from 7 months. From about the same time, even a little earlier, night hangs on the chest began. The situation got better, then got worse. But it never returned to normal. My daughter has been sleeping very badly lately. Falls asleep around 10 pm, then wakes up to breastfeed around 10 pm, then around 01 am, and then every hour or more often. This can continue until 04.00 in the morning or even until 05.30. At the same time, she whimpers until I give a breast. On the hands does not want, if I take. Only lying down. Not so much sucks intensively, but simply, like a nipple sucks lightly. I don't get enough sleep. I can sleep and feed well. But! She throws her breasts, and then soon wakes up and whimpering, wants breasts again. I tried giving water. Doesn't want to drink. We can't have milk. Allergies still torment me. Teeth, of course, can be disturbing, but there are only four of them so far. So they can climb for a very long time. We both don't sleep well. I think it's wrong. I would be patient if I understood that my daughter was well. But for her, apparently, it is also difficult. Help, please. Thank you
Hello, I have a question for you. My son, 2m, 3 weeks old, cannot be without a breast at all during the day, if I fall asleep, I just take my breast, he immediately wakes up and starts looking. it happens that he will spit it out and look again. and at night she wakes up only 2 times! there is nothing to do at home, there is not enough time for yourself! How can I not understand at all!
Good day Elena. My name is Galina. I have the same problem as many - my baby hangs on my chest day and night ... .. and sleeps only with breasts and wakes up at night to suck every hour ... and also my boy's weight is 10800 at 5 months. (born 3850)
My mother fed me up to 7 months, my brother up to 3 months. She says that no one hung on her chest. And, in general, it seems that it wasn’t like this before: there were no slings, women walked calmly, walked with strollers, went to work, and now, if the GV, then the child hangs and the mother is tied for years. It seems that no one suffered. I don't know why it's like this now?
Elena, hello! If you can, please give me some advice! The baby is 3 months old, weighs 6 kg, hardly sleeps during the day, hangs on his chest, while he completely refuses to walk in the stroller, after bathing he cries terribly. One pediatrician advised to drink Pantogam, another - Tea, a neurologist - Phenibut. The mother-in-law says to switch to SW. I do not know what to do. We are also given secondary lactase deficiency, because problems with the mixture can arise.
Elena, the drugs were prescribed after my complaints about my daughter's daytime sleep. I did the diaper test several times, it turned out 11-14 piss per day. The mother-in-law of her children transferred to the NE with such complaints, so she advises me. At night, my daughter sleeps for about 8 hours and wakes up once for feeding. Yes, I’m already thinking about a sling (I have back problems, so I still don’t have one). In general, I want to keep the GW, of course.
Elena, good afternoon. If you have the opportunity, please help with advice. My daughter is 4.5 months old. From birth on mixed feeding, there was not enough milk. Until 4 months, she slept with me more or less normally, woke up a couple of times at night and ate breasts, hung on her chest from 4 in the morning to 6. 2 weeks ago I moved to live in another country. The child has been changed. She hangs on her chest all night, instead of a nipple she has a breast. It gets to the point that she can suck for 3-4 hours in a row. She doesn't suck during the day. It does not hang on the chest during the day, only sometimes it can, when I put it to sleep. I am desperate. Is this situation normal? Thank you very much.
Hello! The child is a month old, I feed on demand, everything is fine, but for the first month they scored 1400, the doctor said that this is not very good, that the norm is 600, that you need not overfeed, that the baby will have a stomach ache. I looked at my records, the eldest daughter also scored 1300 in the first month. At the same time, the doctors themselves say to feed on demand. Many acquaintances say that in the first month, children gain far from 600, but a kilogram or more. Maybe it’s worth rewriting the norms already, if we are all so for guards on demand, what do you think?
Elena, good afternoon! Such a problem. The child is 3 months old. About the fact that he began to constantly hang on his chest (both day and night) - I am silent, because. I understood from the previous comments that this is normal. But here's what's confusing. During the day, the child does not sleep at all (maybe a little sleep if I'm around). And in the last 4 days he also stopped sleeping at night. Turns his head back and forth with his eyes closed, waving his hands, scratching his eyes ... crying all the time. I also give breasts at night, otherwise I won’t sleep at all. Is it something nervous? He doesn’t lie in the stroller, he screams “foolish”, we can’t go for a walk. Is this appropriate behavior for a child of this age? I already have no strength. I don't eat or sleep.
Hello. The child is 4 months old. Hangs on the chest day and night. Does not take a pacifier. When you press the nipple, the milk flows well. It turns out that there is no lactation crisis? What then?
Elena, hello. I won’t ask anything new, and you probably won’t answer (I read the article and almost all the comments on it), but I’ll still tell my story and ask the question:
My son is 3.5 months old, we are on breastfeeding, probably for 5 days he eats and doesn’t let go, he sleeps, he can just suck, but he doesn’t swallow (does it satisfy the sucking reflex?)
Today, in fact, what prompted me to write, for more than 5 hours he is on me, falls asleep with a breast, releases, it will take a little time to take it again, suck, suck, stop, but do not let go. If released, I put it on the bed, immediately wakes up and cries, I take it back to me, calms down. I don't take his chest. It is easier at night, because joint dream. Yesterday, too, he didn’t let go for three hours, but at least we were on the bed and I myself was able to sleep, but today only my hands, I don’t want to shift even if I lie next to me. What is this? lactation crisis? Teeth? Lack of milk? (this is the last thing that comes to mind, because the plans also include the desire to feed until self-weaning). Maybe something else? Tell me please
Hello, I have a similar problem. The child is 2 months and a week old. In the morning he eats breasts and sleeps a little during the day. he asks not to let me, he cries and so on until ten in the evening. I don’t sleep all night. see what to do how to feed so that you don’t ask so often? Or is it a crisis?
Elena, good afternoon. I have a situation like many mothers after a year))) well, I can still learn something new)) my daughter is 1 year and 1 month old. From the very birth on GV, on demand at any time, always and everywhere, she ate as much as she wanted. There has never been a break of three hours from birth. There were no nipples. I would not have thought about excommunication, if at least at night it was somehow calmer and hangs all night without ceasing. In the afternoon, very often, she also comes up, pulls a T-shirt, sits down and eats. I tried to refuse twice and cried a lot. She eats food normally, I don’t insist, but she eats and shows interest, although she introduced complementary foods very late and it can be said that only from the year she became more or less interested in all food. I didn’t plan to excommunicate by force or through her tears, it’s just that the situation is worsening day by day, there is another child of 4 years old. With two, you won't be spoiled much at all. There are assistants, but still not every day. I don’t consider situations when a child is left with his grandmother and weaned for himself. But still I worry that it will only get worse, and she will demand her own and also hang. I also want to sleep in a normal position. What to do, feed until self-denial or wait a month or two if it doesn’t change, but then already through screaming and stress for the child and me ?? Help
Good afternoon We are 7 days old and have been hanging on our chests for days since birth. The first 20 minutes sucks, then falls asleep and slowly sucks. If I remove my breasts, it wakes up and demands it again. At night I sleep only on my chest. The pediatrician said to buy baby lactase and give it to the baby. That you can’t hang so often, this is an anomaly, most likely the child has lactase deficiency.
Hello Elena! Such a problem, the daughter of 4 months recovered by 200g in just a month, we are on GV, stopped sucking in a good way, it’s all three minutes and that’s it, if I give it still arches, the baby doesn’t want to take the breast, before and before going to bed it could take a long time suck, and now it’s cut off, in the evening the doctor said to give the mixture, we’re trying to take the bottle from a spoon, but she doesn’t drink very much. How should we be and what do we have for the period?
Good afternoon I have the following problem. Son is 4 months old. We are on Mrs. He used to sleep until 3 a.m. in his crib, then I took him to feed and the rest of the night he slept with us, waking up a couple of times in the morning to eat. From 3.5 months, a nightmare began, the child eats before going to bed, falls asleep, I put him in the crib after an hour and a half, he wakes up, and begins to hang on his chest, sleeps badly, wakes up often, every hour and a half, I let my chest fall asleep again, naturally I I don't sleep. I do not know how to be, help with advice. Thank you very much!
Hello, Elena! I am writing in despair, because For two weeks now, my 3-month-old son has been waking up at night every 40 minutes (each cycle) and does not fall asleep on his own, either he needs to be rocked. or to breastfeed. But breasts don't help either. So it goes all night with my rises 10-12 times or shifting it from one breast to another. Say I don't sleep. say nothing... He sleeps badly from birth, but in recent weeks he has been just awful. He sleeps normally during the day, he can sleep for 2-3 hours on his own, or maybe 40 minutes and that's it. We feed like when, but we don’t keep a strict time interval, we sleep together, but every night is a nightmare for me, not to mention the fact that I have a husband and an older child, whom I can’t devote time to at all in the evening. I don’t know what to do, but despair overshadows the joy of motherhood ... ..
Hello, Elena! Tell me, please, what is the best thing to do in the following situation - my son is 1 year and 2 months old, began to sleep badly at night, wakes up, whimpers, sometimes screams, gives breasts, sucks, falls asleep, releases his chest, then after a while wakes up again and so it can reach yes 10 times a night. I don’t know what’s wrong with the child, I’m tormented by doubts, maybe I missed something. My son sleeps with me, otherwise I won't sleep at all. I used to wake up only on a potty a couple of times a night ... in the daytime I don’t remember about my chest at all, I eat ordinary food ...
Hello, first of all, thank you for everything you do! there are few places where you can find such support online (and offline too)
And here I have a question about your opinion, perhaps advice.
the situation is this: my boy, 2 and 2, hung on his chest from the very beginning, he is just one of those babies who slept every half hour for half an hour, day and night. It was hard, as you understand, but habit and some dexterity eased (if I can call it that) my situation. despite all this, I myself like the guards, especially now when the child is talking and gently calling out to the tit. in general, I must say, the child is very active, quite independent, his character is bright. with all this, we fall asleep only with the breast, during the day we fall asleep and sleep with the breast, it doesn’t let go at all, there was a period it was possible to unhook the breath for 20 minutes, but then it sucked it back in, now after 2 it doesn’t let go at all. at night he wakes up 5-6 times, sometimes more or less, but he sleeps with us, I try not to wake up completely. everything would be fine, but at night he would not just wake up quietly, but screaming for his chest, that is, not so that he calmly asked or crawled closer himself. in the afternoon, if at home, he often walks and asks, it’s impossible to distract him if I sit down to play with him or read a book right away, tit! if outside the house, then most often it turns out to persuade that the tit is at home, of course, if he fell or got scared, then most often the tit is also on the street too. In general, things are not so bad on the street. My dream is to have 1-3 feedings per day. but it seems to be something impossible. do you have any recommendations to reduce the quantity?
still need to add, there is a nanny and 2-3 times a week, she calmly puts him to daytime sleep, sleeps as usual for 1.5-3 hours, in this interval she wakes up and takes him in her arms, he immediately calms down and sleeps on. daddy does it very rarely, he doesn’t have that calmness. every weekend he tries to put it in the afternoon but no. I'm trying to explain to my son that the tit is tired, he only freaks out even more. he likes to do everything himself, I suggest him to sleep on his own, after titi, but no
for reference, someone else's opinion that it's time to excommunicate me does not particularly care.
itching all got out before 2 years
thanks in advance
ren
Good afternoon My daughter is 1 month old, while I am breastfeeding, but I think that there is not enough milk! During the day she hangs on her chest all the time, I eat with her, I can’t move away at all, she immediately wakes up and is indignant. He sleeps well at night, falls asleep at 10-11, feeds at 3-4 and then at 6-7. I didn’t do a wet diaper test, but judging by the diapers, she pees normally, not a little, she also poops 4-5 times a day. BUT. We've added very little in a month. 3250 were born, at discharge 3020, now about 3350. Should I start supplementary feeding or continue the fight for full breastfeeding? I'm afraid that my daughter will be weak from malnutrition. If it is still worth feeding, then how many times a day and how many ml?
Hello! We are constantly hanging on the chest from 1.5 months and now it's already the 3rd month! And we can eat for 2 hours or more, if the baby falls asleep during the day, then he will sleep for half an hour and wants to eat again! Walking is generally a problem for us! We scream all the time! Soothes the chest! Please tell me, someone advises supplementing with a mixture, they say that milk is not fat! I don't know what to do anymore!
Hello. Help me please. The child is 7.5 months old, she began to sleep very badly at night, we sleep on her chest, we used to fall asleep at 21.00. And slept all night. Now the regime has gone astray, for some reason the child began to fall asleep at 24.00. During the day he sleeps for 2-2.5 hours, for example, he goes to bed at 14.00 and wakes up somewhere at 16.00. I try to put to bed at night at 22.00. But she can fall asleep for an hour and wake up again. We have to wait until night. But that's not all, when we fall asleep at night we sleep for about 40 minutes with a breast, then the daughter starts screaming with her eyes closed, she releases her breasts, I try to give her back, she screams and does not take it. It calms down only when I take it in my arms. Then I try to put her to sleep again, but everything repeats again 2 times. At night she doesn’t sleep normally, takes her breast, cries, lets her cry, sleeps in fragments, I don’t know how to help her, I’m worried. Eventually, he falls asleep in the morning. At what Daytime sleep is not the same as at night. Tell me what I'm doing wrong, what is my mistake?
Hello! My son is one and a half years old. He sucks endlessly at the breast, practically does not eat anything. Went to the doctor, tests were normal. Hemoglobin was lowered, after taking iron it increased. Hanging on my chest does not bother me, I am worried that there are not enough substances in my milk for its rum and development. For the whole day, he can eat a piece of some fruit and gnaw a cucumber with a crumb of bread. It happens that he eats a whole cutlet, but this is rare. I don't want to withdraw. What to do?
Elena, hello! Thank you for all your articles and answers to questions!!!
My daughter is 6 weeks and 3 days old. She was born 3 kg 50 gr after stimulation with oxytosin, epidural and forceps.
Weight changes:
Birth - 3050
2 days - 2 840
5 days - 3210
2 weeks and 6 days - 3 240
6 weeks and 3 days - 3 560
She is active, cheerful, cries in moderation, I seem to have enough milk, sleeps 4-5 hours at night, 1-2 hours during the day, eats the rest of the time - hangs on her chest, applies well, poops profusely several times a day, pees 6 times -7 per day, spitting up milk intermittently.
I had a child health visitor come to me today and said that since we have little weight gain, we should think about giving formula.
What to do? Is it really such a small weight gain?
Good afternoon Daughter 9 months. I predominantly formula feed. Complementary food almost does not eat refuses. But after he drinks the whole mixture, he looks for breasts and without it I can’t rock my daughter. She wakes up very often at night and cries. I let my chest calm down and fall asleep. In the morning, awakenings become more frequent and the daughter literally hangs on her chest. I do not get enough sleep, and besides, it becomes very unpleasant for me from long sucking that my nipples ache. I can't fall asleep while sucking her because of the discomfort. I still have milk but not much. I think the daughter sucks not because of hunger. I want to wean off my chest. Please tell me how?
Oops, I didn't ask the question. The question is, how do I act now in this situation?
Hello!! I have a very difficult situation. At 1.7-1.8 I decided to turn off the GV. Before that, everything was generally good. There was one feeding left before daytime sleep, at night and at night a couple of times. We all sleep together, so nighttime feedings are still tolerable, and besides, she didn’t sleep for hours. Well, I decided that it was time to remove the only daytime feeding, before bedtime. And this is where hell started. For a couple of days I laid her down in every way, she cried, tantrums began during the day, breast requests (which had not been there for a long time) at night, naturally, began to just hang on me. I realized that she is not yet ready to leave. I returned one for daytime sleep, but for 3 weeks now it still hangs on goudi at night. It became very bad to eat ordinary food during the day. Be capricious more than usual. But I'm still tired of feeding her, and even more so, I don't want to return with intensive feeding. I have such a question - what to do now? Wait until she starts to lose interest herself, but it is not known when. Or just cut it all off at once. Or still put the squeeze on the situation with daytime feedings - cancel them first at all costs. And leave the night ones for now? And what to do with night feedings? She also doesn’t drink water from a bottle at night (oh, I forgot to say - bottles / drinkers go very badly with her) I didn’t give a bottle at all when I was little. At first I finished her from a spoon and then immediately started from a thicket. Maybe that's why she is not at all interested in sucking from bottles ... I will really wait for your recommendations !! Thank you!
Hello. Now my baby is 1 month 12 days old. We were at the control weighing for a month, gained 330 g. The pediatrician says that it is not enough and that I need to supplement with the mixture, but I would still like to fight. It hangs on the chest all the time during the day, at night the child does not wake up on his own, but I do not wake him up for feeding. We sleep together. I feed through the pads, since I have a flat nipple and even in the maternity hospital I could not take a breast and in connection with this I did not have milk for several days, I was supplemented with a mixture. In the hospital they said that we need pads. Poops 1 time a day, sometimes 2 times. I didn’t check for wet diapers, but judging by the diaper, I think it’s enough. We bought a scale, now the child weighs 4040 (was born with a weight of 3440). I tried to weigh it a couple of times before and after feeding (it eats from 20-75 grams at a time), after feeding I sometimes decant and supplement with my milk. The pediatrician said that he needs to eat 100 g at a time. Tomorrow for re-weighing. I have a question, I’m trying to wean the baby from the lining, but while he is very resistant, they tell me that it’s not worth starting. Is there a chance to wean or will I only make it worse and the baby may even
give up the breast. Also, a question about supplementary feeding, should I fight for breastfeeding or not torture myself and the child and supplement with formula?
Good afternoon The baby is 2 months old. After one breast cries and worries, always looking for mouth movements! 3900 were born. Now the weight is 6300, large in itself, in the father. Ultrasound showed a slightly enlarged gallbladder. The pediatrician says that I overfeed, my stomach will hurt and spit up like a fountain. I don't see these symptoms. The uzist and the pediatrician strongly advise to feed according to the regime once every three hours, with a night break of 6 hours. Tell me how should I do? Is it possible to give a second breast? I would not want to torment the baby with a regimen, but it’s scary for the Gallbladder and digestion.
Hello! The girl is 5 months old, she got up 2 times at night to eat, then 1 time, and for the last 2 weeks she gets up 10 times, as a result of which we organized a joint dream, now she eats breasts constantly and falls asleep with her breasts, it’s only necessary to roll over in a dream and she starts crying to ask for breasts again and so all night and she starts amy night. I can’t sleep at all, because I’m afraid to move over and wake her up once again. for a lactation crisis or is it teeth? For a month, the increase is only 300 grams. She falls asleep only with her breast both day and night, it’s pointless to put it on the bed, she wakes up immediately. The problem is that I can’t sleep at night with her (it’s uncomfortable for me to lie on my side so I hardly sleep.
Hello! Please tell me. My baby is now 8 months old. We also experienced a lactation crisis at 3 months. Often hung on the chest day and night, there was a joint dream. Then lactation improved and everything settled down. At 7 months, the story repeated itself, the child cannot sleep at all without a breast at night. Everyone is worried that he hangs so often on his chest, he does not sleep and does not give us. And how to wean him from guards at night later ?. Wakes up with a scream. We've lost one tooth so far. But the pediatrician says that they climb more from above 4 and from below 2. Is it possible that he so often requires breasts because of his teeth? I think he won’t get used to sleeping with us in bed, but he won’t be in his later? We even used gum gel, but the result did not last long. At night, he only sleeps with boobs in his mouth. During the day we only sleep outside. And if at home, it is also only with boobs in your mouth. Please tell me what to do? Thanks in advance for your reply!
Hello, Elena! You are a big brain for creating this site! I have three children: a son is 7 years old, a daughter is 4 years old and the youngest, she is about 6 months old! All children will grow up on their chest, but now doubts are guessing in my head: the baby has been pissing very little for about two weeks. The number of piss -8 will be typed in a day, the volume of urine excreted has decreased (we are without diapers, so this is noticeable) and the color is a little more saturated. I have already begun to offer water little by little, without changes. Tell me, does the number of pee in 6 months affect?
And yet ... I'm sick, I had temperatures for three days - tonsillitis, I didn't take anything, I offer breasts at the first squeak. I'm being treated. Can it somehow affect?
Hello. We are already 4 months old tomorrow, and the baby does not sleep well the second night, often wakes up and requires breasts, and also jerks her legs and arms all night, we have a joint dream. During the day, she does not hang on her chest, for what reason this happens, I don’t understand, tell me please
Good day, Elena. I have such a situation: the baby is 2 and a half months old. We still don’t have a sleep regimen, sleeps with me at night and give breasts on demand, comes out somewhere in 1.5-2 hours. But! Fits only with me, as I lie down - so does she. He falls asleep either with a tit in his mouth, or after sitting feeding, he needs to shake. During the day, the same story: it hangs on the titan all the time. I feed sitting, falls asleep on the handles, as soon as I get up, wakes up and asks again. Sometimes he does not fall asleep, but immediately asks again in a minute. I'm worried about not getting enough milk?! I always applied and apply often, but we have a low weight gain, barely 500 grams per month, the doctor says to supplement with formula, I don’t want to desperately yet, but I’m worried that the girl is starving. He writes well, the basic monthly examination did not reveal any violations. I’m already drinking special teas for lactation, changing positions for feeding, in general, I’m out of my skin, and the weight gain is low, but we have a very fast growth in length! Tell me how to be? Listen to the doctor - supplement with formula or still try to maintain pure breastfeeding?
Good evening! We are 3 weeks old. The pediatrician prescribed lacto baby, after we passed on carbohydrates, 0.4%. They started drinking and my daughter stopped pooping herself, I saved myself with warm cotton wool, strong gas formation. The stool is liquid. If you do not help, he screams a lot and knocks with his legs. Warm diapers, laying on the stomach and stroking do not help. We are completely on breastfeeding, does not take a nipple and a bottle, espumizan does not help much. I really want to keep feeding. At night it hangs constantly, but sometimes after they began to give lactase, the baby began to sleep for 2-3 hours, but at night. From 5 am begins: screaming, superficial sleep and constantly hanging on the chest. He sleeps with me at night and doesn't spit up much. During the day he always sleeps very superficially and often wakes up, vomits profusely. Weighed before and after feeding, eats 90-100 grams. I gained 700 grams in about 2 weeks. At the chest behaves nervously, the legs are tightening. How can you help a child? Am I doing everything right or do I need to change something?
Hello, Elena. We are a month old. The baby almost does not sleep during the day and hangs on his chest all day, falling asleep with her. If you shift, then screams begin. Sometimes he spins, loses his chest, starts looking for it and screaming, kicks his legs until you put it back in him. This can be repeated for a long time. There is enough milk - for this month they have gained more than a kilogram. He takes a pacifier very rarely. Help with advice
Hello. We are 2 months and a week old. Previously, the baby hung on her chest in the evenings. Standard from 7-8 pm and fit in at 11-12 at night. Now and during the day he sleeps only with his breast. I have to lie with her all the time, because I don’t have the strength to sit. 10 days ago, my chronic tonsillitis worsened, there was almost no milk. With the help of lactation teas and a breast pump, it seems that it was possible to return the milk. The chest is not empty, in the morning it even hurts to touch, but still it hangs on the chest. At night, falling asleep at 11, wakes up in 5-6 hours. Then he sleeps for a couple more hours. Well, from morning to evening all the time on the chest. With what it can be connected?
Hello, we have this problem for 7 months. Lately, he has been eating every hour at night, but not restless, he just wakes up a little sucks and then sleeps and so on all night. It seems to me that he doesn’t even eat, but just sucks, what could it be? We started complementary foods in the morning, we eat porridge at lunch, vegetables at night, a little kefir began to eat no water, no compotes, does not drink
Hello. I have a problem with GW. we are already 1.8 but we hang on our chest and practically do not want to eat anything. eats very little and very selectively. can eat 1 time a day and then in the late afternoon. the rest of the time the chest. at night, during the day, 1 daytime sleep is also on the chest. I suggest.. but without success. I am more or less happy to eat only yogurt that I make myself. I don’t give sweets .. in general, at her age, at least something could be eaten with pleasure - we don’t have that .. neither fruit nor soup. eats pilaf, dumplings, steamed cutlets ... mostly just spitting from food .. I already have some kind of inferiority complex about food .. it seems to me that she is no longer full breast milk, because he will eat a little and can run to me several times in an hour. breasts for her and communication with my mother (although I am always with her, there are no special nannies) and drink, and eat, and it’s scary and painful, and sleep - all breasts! I was already very tired from constant hanging, I became nervous and irritable. I can’t do almost any household chores - neither really cook, nor clean up. because at any moment you have to drop everything and sit while she enjoys it. on the one hand, GW is our salvation, and on the other, I can’t wait until I finish it .. now fangs are still climbing - it refuses to eat at all. We have been co-sleeping since birth. I don’t understand where I could have made a mistake .. it would seem that she was on her lead all the time .. there was no sleep until 8 months. I slept at night, and during the day I didn’t put it down for 10-15 minutes. and the chest did not help
around everyone says that we should already throw guards, and I'm straight at a crossroads. and it's a pity and no more strength. I'm mentally no more
Hello, the baby is 1 year and 2 months old. For about three months now, he just began to hang on his chest (especially during the day, 1.2 times at night, and then for food) and during the day it’s just a nightmare, he will suck out the milk, and then he just chews the breast, sucks, or just keeps it in his mouth and so all day. Moreover, he eats ordinary food very well, even after eating it is applied to the chest. I tried to refuse, it doesn’t work ... she cries, raises her jacket. And to be honest, my chest hurt ... it's like pulling a sick corn all the time. .r.s. The child does not get sick, the teeth do not bother, nothing new happens. Tell me how to be?
Elena! thanks for the answer! your opinion helped me a lot
but still more questions than answers
how to introduce complementary foods? And How? although that might sound funny. the child is almost 2 years old .. maybe I wouldn’t be so much strained by her hanging on my chest and I wouldn’t refuse breastfeeding for as long as possible - if she ate well, at least a little bit .. when she was 6-8 months old, she started complementary foods with vegetables. at one time she ate a little, and then she simply began to spit everything out and nothing could persuade her or entertain her. closes her mouth, spins .. and now she doesn’t want to if she just gets up from the chair and that’s it .. this is already a signal that she doesn’t want anything at all .. everything doesn’t leave this thought that it seems like there should not be enough milk for her alone .. and you can’t say that she loves something in general - I suggest fruit - for a very strong desire, you can sometimes shove it. it would seem that the teeth itch - she offered an apple, a carrot - she gnaws and quits. Have us began to crumble the front tooth which left. went to the dentist - she said the reasons may be due to the fact that something was missing during pregnancy, and because she does not eat solid food - that is, a kind of cleaning does not occur and due to night feedings too - that the mouth at night is not enough saliva is washed .. almost does not allow brushing her teeth .. so, she gnaws the brush herself
when she began to spit food, of course I tried to get behind her and apply pedagogical complementary foods. that is, when we eat, we always sit it down with us. but all the same, interest in food is minimal .. that's right at all ..
listen to others - how they hamster .. we don’t know when to get to that
Hello! I was completely exhausted, I started to read on the Internet and came across your site. I have a similar problem with the previous girl: the child is already 1.9, and hangs on his chest every hour! This is simply horror. I don't know what's the matter. We sleep together, always gave on demand. During the day, he sleeps with his breast in his mouth. Complementary foods were introduced at 8 months, in the fall he already ate regular food + breast 4 times a day. But since the New Year, teeth have begun to bother me a lot, and since spring it’s just a madhouse! Demands a breast constantly! I have already begun to limit regular food, because between doses he could hang on his chest 3-4 times for half an hour. What porridge already ... Weight within the upper limit. He does not want to drink any liquid, which he did not offer! A couple of sips and that's it. At night he wakes up at one, and from 4 in the morning he just sleeps on me (in the literal sense of the word) and sucks. Otherwise, he doesn’t want to go to bed, the hysteria begins. And this is 14 kg on you every night. And with her fingers, the nipple on the second breast monotonously winds. For hours. Like medieval torture. On the street, she constantly remembers, waiting for me to promise, I will give a breast at home. Earlier in the evening and during the day, he fell asleep while motion sickness, now eat milk, then already motion sickness. There is no other way, otherwise hysteria. And he constantly talks about it and remembers it. And so for the 4th month ... I was waiting for my teeth to come out. Came out and nothing has changed. There are 16 of them, the last 4 pieces are not yet visible at all. I understand that I can’t leave him in such a situation, there will be terrible stress, but I’m slowly going crazy, to be honest ... my relatives all say: “Drop it!”, But no one helps and then I’ll have to deal with the consequences myself. I feel sorry for myself and my son. Thank you!
Daughter 3.5 months on Guards. When they arrived from the hospital (she had bronchitis), she constantly cries and wriggles while feeding .. she forgot how to empty her intestines on her own .. only massage - legs to the stomach. Very often it requires a breast, but it stumbles upon some kind of incomprehensible pain .. I distract it, walk like a column, calm down, suggest again. And this has been going on for 2 months. She still has gaziki, farts with difficulty and cries. I do not know how to be? The gastroenterologist recommended to maintain daily intervals of 3 hours, dewy - 6, but this is simply not realistic !! At night, it is still possible for 2-3 hours, but during the day it can stick for 2-3 hours with boobs in your mouth: sleep and eat, sleep and eat. What if I overfeed her and it hurts her stomach?? How often to change breasts? I change every 3 hours. When will these stomach problems end? We are almost 4 months old. Increases for the first 2 months in kg, for 3 months only 420 gr, since it is difficult to feed her .. she cries and bends ..
Elena, hello!
My son is only two days old. The first day after birth, I slept periodically, waking up for "snacks", which lasted no more than 30 minutes ... And then suddenly there was a need for continuous sucking. He doesn’t even let me go to the toilet, falls asleep on his chest and as soon as I try to sneak away, he immediately arranges an op. We are still in the hospital. The doctor says I need to sleep on my stomach. And I’m not only sleeping, I can’t turn on my stomach, because. The baby constantly needs the breast. There is no milk yet. There is colostrum. It is not possible to invite a consultant on GV. Tell me how to understand if I'm doing everything right? Maybe he doesn’t have enough colostrum, or did I eat something that made him feel bad and that’s why he hung? Is it necessary to count pee when the milk has not yet arrived, or are there any other indicators that at least clarify something?
Elena, hello. Please tell me, my child for 1 month prefers to take only one breast and eats everything from it to the end, I suggest she takes the other breast, sucks a little something that is easy to suck, and then starts freaking out with her legs, pulling her hands and crying. How can the situation be corrected? I often try to offer her this breast, but without result, she still freaks out. Maybe there is some way to make milk come from the unloved breast as easily as from the other breast?
Hello! a child 2 months old was born 3630 kg, height 53
Now 4720. height 58. From about 2 weeks she stopped sleeping normally during the day. He sleeps for 15-20 minutes, and then on his arms and with his chest. On the street too. I came to feed, now the cold will go, I don’t know how to walk. He sleeps well until 13 days. Here from 11 to 13 and walk. Sleeps well at night. We go to wash at 22.30. at 23 in bed with breasts. He falls asleep soundly by 24 hours.
And during the day, only on the chest. And stays awake for 30-40 minutes, and then eat and doze off. After 20 minutes, he gets up and in a circle. I used to fall asleep for 40 minutes and an hour in my arms, as soon as I shifted everything as if I had not slept.
This is fine?
Elena, hello!
Tell me what to do in my situation. We are 1 month and a week old. We are on breastfeeding and supplemented 2-3 times a day with formula (60-90 ml on average).
Supplemented TC does not have enough milk. The child is naughty and throws the breast. I give one, then another. Both sucks the other end, wriggles, screams, hits me with his fists, demands to eat. The guy is big, 5200. Is it really possible to somehow “add” milk so that there is enough?
Question two: sometimes I need to leave for 4-5 hours. I was able to express once. Now I'm afraid to express because I don't have enough milk. Therefore, in my absence, dad has to feed the baby with a formula. How to be in such a situation? Is it possible to sip a little during the day from both pears in one container?
Good afternoon. Lena, I again to you about sore.
we are already almost 2.2 g but we stubbornly do not want to self-excommunicate. On the one hand, GV likes and solves a lot of issues, but on the other hand, at this age it can be simply unbearable. now I left my breasts only for the night and for daytime sleep, during the day I try to distract, but the problem is that my daughter practically prefers breasts to any other food. and it would be okay to eat - I might then not be in a hurry with excommunication. but after all, whims and tantrums are already due to the fact that I try to give breasts less often. during the day I don’t give it just like that .. and it will be the same hunger to sit .. stuffing very rarely something happens. sometimes our food is a few spoonfuls of porridge, tea, a banana and a couple of biscuits in a day. I already consider myself to be some kind of rukozhop pardon the expression. that I don’t cook, you don’t push anything into her .. already with jokes and in different ways, both with toys and with cartoons. how she eats the same porridge - she walks and is cheerful and plays by herself, but how she can’t feed - whining all day, reaching for her chest, I distract, I don’t give it .. otherwise it will be climbing under a jacket every hour. I think that poor appetite is associated with GW because the daughter thinks that I will get my own anyway. and will endure .. in general, removing GW without an ora is not yet realistic. during the day he doesn’t want to fall asleep in any without a breast .. neither in his arms, nor shaking .. although in the car he may well pass out if he gets tired
I can’t single out at all that she loves something from food .. one or the other .. what she eats today is not a fact of what she will eat later. I cook fresh everything every day .. soups, we don’t recognize liquid at all .. we eat soup at best - dipping bread and chewing bread.
at our age, we don't talk yet. at all. there are separate syllables mamma papap .. but pronounces them unconsciously. i.e. not mom and not dad ..
were at the speech therapist - she said it was necessary to stop the guards, it is also connected with how the child sucks the breast - the tongue, in general, will not work that way, which is bad for speech. although I don’t really see the connection - there are children who are already 3, practically from birth on mixtures - and they also don’t speak
how to reduce the guards to a miimum so that self-weaning occurs? I don’t want to cardinally - so as not to injure the psyche, but I don’t know how much patience I have enough .. it has long been running out
Elena, hello! My baby is 4 months old and he suckles every 1.5-2 hours day and night. Is this considered normal? Should I increase the interval or leave it as it is? It’s just that you don’t ask anyone who children eat in 2.5-3 hours
I had the exact same thing. Twice. And for the first time I went the simplest way - I weaned my daughter from the breast in a year and 1 month. And the second time ... I began to study this issue in more detail, trying to understand what the mistake was.
Yes, a one-year-old who suckles at the breast like a newborn is not normal. And when I told my friends how my eldest daughter behaved when she was a year old, they only sympathized. All night - on the chest. And during the day - applying once an hour, if not more often. It seemed to me - just unlucky, such a demanding child.
But now the second son is also turning a year old ... And I understand that the situation is repeating itself. Maybe the problem is not in the children, but in me? Why do my babies not want to part with the breast?
Fortunately, the situation with the son is better than with the eldest daughter. Although he is applied to the chest all day long, he is not so dependent on feedings. He loves very much, and this miracle remedy can replace his mother's milk for him.
But the mistake is that I did not regulate the GW process in any way. Consultants constantly say that it is important to feed babies on demand. But few people know that this applies only to newborns. Then you need to try more often to distract children with something external, without accustoming them to wash down all sorrows and boredom with milk.
From 3 months (or earlier), you need to remove the habit of sticking your baby's chest every 15 minutes. And by the year, feeding already has its own clear rules.
What is the reason for such frequent applications? Sometimes a child asks for breasts just out of boredom (per year). Or from the inability to solve their problems in a different way. And also due to the fact that the mother positions herself as a servant of the baby, she does not have any of her own affairs and interests.
All these reasons are given in great detail in the free video tutorial " How to feed after a year so that the baby does not hang on the chest?". There is a big video, it takes a very long time to retell it. Yes, and there is no point in this - look and you will understand what it is.
When you realize exactly what need the baby is satisfying with the help of constant sucking, you can correct the situation. Fix the root of the problem. Abrupt weaning is not an option!
What to do? The baby is always on the breast...
If the child is not ready to reduce feeding, this does not mean that he needs to be abruptly weaned. In general, abrupt weaning is a very undesirable method.
This method is very simple - just do not give the breast and endure. A few days pass, the one-year-old forgets everything, the tantrums stop ... No tactics, no plan and no knowledge are needed.
But this time I decided that this is not my method. And I want my son to go through the end of GW as smoothly as possible.
I didn't just listen to the video tutorial" How to breastfeed after a year". I also went through its paid continuation, which explained in detail how to feed at 1 or 2 years, and also gave a scheme for the smooth completion of breastfeeding.
I described some of what I heard in this article, but of course, I would not be able to retell 8 hours of video, no matter how much I would like to. Therefore, to all mothers who are serious about breastfeeding for more than a year, I recommend listening to these lessons too. You definitely won't regret it. I didn't know much before...
And most importantly, what I want to say: gently excommunicated in a year is almost unrealistic! The baby is not ready yet! Especially if your baby is now hanging on his chest for a long time. Wait at least another six months, gradually removing feedings. And better - up to two years.
Video of a breastfeeding consultant on the duration of breastfeeding:
I have established myself in the desire to feed my son at least until two (more details -). Not only does the World Health Organization recommend this, but it will also strengthen the child's immunity. And in order for GV not to strain, it is necessary to change tactics. When I used the tips described above, my son began to apply no more than 1 time in 2.5-3 hours! I think in a couple of months we will use the breast even less often.
